House rules
What we ask of everyone here
The do's first, because they are the point. Then the few lines that don't move, and what each room asks when you write about somebody who isn't you.
Effective August 16, 2026
The do's
Do say what you actually think
This is a network of real people trying to think better together. A polite room where nobody says anything is not what we are building.
Do say what happened to you
Your own experience is the thing nobody can argue you out of, and it is the safest ground to stand on when you write about anyone.
Do ask, and do answer
Ask the question you think is too basic. Answer the one you happen to know. Most of what is worth having here moves that way.
Do disagree
Disagree with the argument. Take a poll, start a gathering, bring the other half of the picture. Going after the person is the line.
Do tell us when something is wrong
A broken feature, a bad answer from the AI, something here that shouldn't be — info@allgoodpeople.net. We would rather hear it than not.
The lines
These hold everywhere on the site, in every room.
If an intimate image of you is here without your consent, we take it down within 48 hours — how to ask.
- Don't threaten, harass or target anyone.
- Don't post someone else's private information.
- Don't impersonate anyone, and don't say you are something you are not.
- Don't post lewd or sexual content — and never anything sexual involving a minor, or anything sexual the person in it did not consent to.
- Don't spam, advertise or run a scheme.
- Don't scrape, crawl or bulk-copy the site.
- Don't break, probe or overload our systems.
- Don't use anyone else's account.
- And don't do anything unlawful.
When you write about other people
This is the part with real consequences, so it is the part with real detail. It applies to reviews, and to anything else you post about somebody who isn't you.
Who you can name. Name any business or organisation. Name a person in their working capacity — anyone you paid, or who was paid to serve you: the plumber, the doctor, the lawyer, the landlord, the cleaner, the agent. Don't name a private person where the subject isn't a service you paid for — an ex, a neighbour, a relative, a colleague. Never name a child. And never post anyone's address, phone number, email, employer, photograph, or any licence, policy or account number.
Say what happened to you. First person is both the most genuine form and the safest one. There is no tone rule here and no quality bar — you can be furious. But say what you experienced rather than what you concluded about somebody's character or crimes: “nothing was ever finished and they kept the deposit” is strong, useful and defensible in a way that calling someone a thief is not.
Your private notes have no rules. Your review deck — the private notes you keep on people and places you use — is seen by no other member. Nothing on this page applies to it. These rules begin at the moment you choose to publish.
Listing yourself in Been There
Been There is where you can list things you have lived through, and things you do for a living, so other members can find you and ask you about them. It is entirely your choice, you write it yourself, and you can take it down at any time.
Write about your own life. Other people and places can be in what you write — just don't name them, and don't say things about them you would have to prove.
Claim only what is yours to claim. If your profession has advertising or solicitation rules, they are yours to follow, including whether you may list under a handle.
No money, in either direction. Nothing is sold in Been There, nobody pays anybody through it, and nobody pays to be listed or to be found.
Tools and automation
What happens if a rule gets broken
Tell us: info@allgoodpeople.net. Say what and why, and a person looks at it.
We may remove content, refuse content, or end an account for anything on this page or anything that puts members or this organization at real risk. When we remove something we tell the person it belonged to, and we keep a record of what was removed and why. The full position — including what happens when someone demands to know who wrote something — is in our Terms.
These rules are part of our Terms, which is the agreement between you and us. We may sharpen a rule here without re-dating that agreement; when a change matters we say so plainly. Questions: info@allgoodpeople.net.